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Can you have too much compassion?

I sometimes will have someone tell me “I think I care too much.”  They will then say how friends are relatives tell them they have a “soft heart” and always let others take advantage.  From this feedback, they receive a message that somehow they need to care less and...

The Three Gates

The Three Gates “Always speak the truth. Just don’t always be speaking it.” – Grandma Jones When I was younger, I remember conversing with my parents about their experiences in life. I asked what they thought the “secret” of a good marriage was. They had been...

“Setting” Boundaries

I struggle a bit with the notion of “setting boundaries.” I prefer the term clarifying boundaries. It seems more complicated when we frame the exercise as “setting” boundaries. It seems as though, through force of will, I must put something in place that wasn’t there...

Dealing with Failure

How do deal with failure? That is an excellent question. People often struggle with a sense of failure and it can become quite a burden for some. I think the essential things is to resist attaching failure to your ego or static idea you have about who you are. When...

Exploring Limits (part 2) Martial Arts

Exploring Limits (part 2) Martial Arts Training I have trained in martial arts most of my life. Judo in middle school, wresting in high school, karate in college and graduate school, and aikido for many years. At the age of 52 decided to try Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. When...

Mental health and pets

Looking for an alternative to traditional psychotropic medications for anxiety/depression? Not really into exercise or yoga? Consider getting a pet. Pet ownership has been found to have a positive impact on mental health and well-being. Numerous studies have shown a...